"We live a life where we can’t pretend evil doesn’t exist...where always believing the best in people can lead to my husband never coming home. It changes him which can then lead to fear, anger and bitterness on the spouses part. We wrestle with not fitting in anywhere, feeling like single parents, and shouldering the changes we see in our spouse on our own. This life is isolating and we are guarded to outsiders who don’t seem to get it. We need understanding- not anecdotes by someone who has never faced the ugliness of humanity day in and day out. We need affirmation that we aren’t broken or crazy."