The 5 Minute Check-In©
The number one answer couples give for what would they like to improve in their relationship is better communication.
What many don’t realize is that what they are really longing for is connection.
Most service couples tell us is that they feel “out of sync” with their spouse. It can often feel like the service lifestyle and home life is two separate worlds. When you add deployments, traumatic experiences, and time apart, your worlds can feel like two parallel tracks that rarely intersect. Conflict happens when we:
- Make assumptions about what our spouse is thinking or feeling,
- When one is under-communicating and/or one is over-communicating,
- When we don’t make the time to catch up on what is happening in our separate (but together) worlds, and
- Simple misunderstandings become kindling to the fire of conflict.